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Sunday, October 2, 2011

Judgmental Much?

One thing I'm finding is how judgmental people are of individuals that have had weight loss surgery. I guess it kind of goes along the same lines as people being judgmental of those that are overweight. Everyone assumes that people are overweight because 1. they're lazy, 2. they have no self-control, 3. they don't eat healthy and eat mostly junk food.... The list of assumptions goes on and on. People don't stop to consider there may be a medical condition underlying their weight. It could be a thyroid issue. It could be PCOS, which is an endocrine disorder. It could be any variety of different reasons. I'm not denying there are overweight people that are lazy, have no self-control, and eat nothing but crap. That, however, is not the case for everyone. For over a year I ate between 1500 and 1800 calories. I also tried to, more often than not, eat healthy foods. Lots of fruit/veggies, good protein, whole grains.... etc. Additionally, I exercised on top of having a fairly active job. I guess if you want to call that lazy and lacking in self-control then go right on ahead and do so.

Now I'm finding there are people that judge those that have gastric bypass in the same negative light. People think it's the easy way out. (Not so.) People think that those that have it are again, lazy. (Not so.) Some people don't have any other option. Some people work their ass off to lose weight, like me, and have NOTHING to show for it. I wish some people could take a minute to get off their high horse and step down to earth and take a walk in someone else's shoes for a change. Maybe I never should have started writing about my surgery journey. Maybe I should have just kept it all a secret and just let people assume I was losing weight the old fashioned way (which didn't work for me). It's so annoying to have people look down on you. It makes me sad.

1 comment:

  1. Those people need a good swift kick in the ass. Seriously.

    I'm in the same boat you are, though I got denied for the surgery. Over the past year, I've yo-yoed between 210 and 195, never losing any more than that. On a 1500 calorie diet working out 30 plus minutes a day.

    I have PCOS, I have Degenerative disk disease, scoliosis and arthritis in my spine. I also have diabetes and likely other issues un-diagnosed with chronic widespread pain and swelling.

    Ask me how much I've tried to lose weight. A ton! Ask me how many drugs I take for my pain and issues? My insulin. That is it. I live with the chronic pain and the rest of it.

    If I could qualify for a life changing surgery to save myself, I would totally go for it just like you did.

    You totally are not any of those things, but the person who said them is totally a judgmental asshole!


    You hang in there Mary, cause YOU are saving yourself. Everyone else can go to hell!


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